Sober Mama, I see you.
To the newly sober mama who is living through life one minute at a time, doing everything in her power to not pick up a drink, I see you.
To the sober mama trying so hard to make it through the first 24 hours of sobriety, I see you.
To the sober mama who has been sober for a month but if one more thing goes wrong today she’s not sure she can stay sober, I see you.
To the sober mama who is struggling through it all, through her job, through raising her children, through her marriage, I see you.
To the sober mama who never quite feels she has it all together but is thankful that at least she’s sober, I see you.
To the sober mama who often relives the trauma of her past and struggles not to pick up a drink again, I see you.
To the sober mama who has a hard time making friends partially because everything seems to revolve around drinking, I see you.
To the sober mama who is able to keep temptation out of sight and out of mind but wine memes keep popping up in her mama Facebook groups which ends up triggering her, I see you.
To the sober mama who even after years of sobriety still has a hard time passing a liquor store without a craving, I see you.
To the sober mama who has almost a decade of sobriety under her belt but still feels ashamed and like she’s supposed to hide it, I see you.
I see you, because I am you.
Despite the wine-heavy mom culture, I promise you that you aren’t alone.
It is possible to parent without using alcohol.
Don’t let the peer pressure of “everyone is doing it” turn you into who you used to be and worked so hard to get away from.
Stay strong, and if you need to, unfollow or leave the mama groups that trigger you. They’re not helping you if they’re hurting you.
Brief Version of My Sober Mama Story
I reached 10 years sober on March 18, 2022.
Honestly, I never thought I’d make it the first 24 hours, let alone over 10 years. I’m so thankful for my sobriety but let me tell you, it hasn’t been easy. Especially with the wine-heavy Mommy Culture.
I got through 3 kids 2 and under, including twins, without alcohol. I got through postpartum depression, self-injurious behaviors, and suicidal ideation without alcohol. Now my twins are 4 and my oldest is 6 and through all the chaos of the never ending pandemic, teaching my kids at home, and health issues of dear family members, I still don’t drink.
No matter what the mommy wine culture may tell you, parenting doesn’t require alcohol.
You’ll actually be a better parent once you stop drinking.
Living doesn’t require alcohol.
If I can do it, you can do it.
Stay strong, sober mama!
As a mom of identical twins and a son two years older, I have gained invaluable experience in the realm, and chaos, of parenting. With a Master's Degree and Education Specialist Degree in School Psychology, I spent years as a school psychologist, helping children navigate through their educational and emotional challenges. Now as a stay at home mom and professional blogger, I combine my areas of expertise to help you in your parenting journey.